Actors are not the only people who play roles. We all do!
Lets take for example a married woman, who just had a baby. Please read on, even if you’re a man or not married! 😉
Before giving birth, she played the role of wife, friend, daughter, sister, colleague … you name it! I’ll name these external roles. She juggled between those different roles, some of them more exiting then others, some contradictory values.
There is one more role, and many times we’re not even aware of it: your true self, the person who you really are, not what others say you should be or do. No wonder why, with so many external roles requiring our attention, we forgot about this one. And I think this one is very important, because it’s the one the gives you’re a lot of energy and enthusiasm when you’re paying attention to it. If you’re not happy, if you’re not paying attention to what YOU also like and want (and do something about it), in time you can loose the connection with your true self… and no other (external) role could replace it! Even more, if you continue to pay attention only to external roles (forgetting about yourself), you cannot make the people around you happy and satisfied for a long time … because you loose your energy is this process of … only giving!
Sometimes we get bored or tired of one role, and we can switch to another – isn’t it great we have so many?! 😉 Sometimes we’d like to try a new one, just for fun (to speak up if we don’t usually do, to be the clown, etc.). 😉 Or switch with someone else… the role of taking the garbage out! 😉 As long as you are aware of your roles, and you don’t consider them the “real” YOU, you’re ok and can joggle them pretty well.
Going back to our example: with the moment of birth, she’s adding a new role on her portfolio: mother! 😉 That cute little baby requires a lot of attention, so … this role will probably get the highest priority. From now on, everything gravitates around it… and other roles might suffer. Including the connection with her true self. “When can I find time for that too?”, she might ask, already tired. “When the baby sleeps or when daddy takes the baby for a walk”, for example. Help him switch roles too, so he can better understand your role. 😉 As long as you’re aware that you need that connection with your true self, you’ll find time for it. And that connection helps you navigate easily through the other roles, feeds your soul and… you might even get creative! 😉
What do you think? How many roles do you have and how good are you at juggling them all? Which one is the most important?
Please leave a comment. I’m curious. 😉